How strong is the fence that's holding you back?

Take a clook at the horse. Whoa: large. Look at the fence. Sheesh: frail. How does it keep her in?

Is the fence even visible to the horse? The horse is so big and strong. The fence looks flimsy and even flutters in the wind. No, it’s not electrically charged. 🙂

If the horse wanted to, she could bust through that false fence with a smidgen of effort. But maybe we’re not talking about desire. Maybe we’re not talking about effort.

What’s holding her back? If it’s not desire or effort? What’s on the other side? Maybe she likes the known world that’s inside the fence. Maybe the concept of venturing outside of what it knows is too scary for the horse.

In case you’re still hiding behind the story of the horse, I’m just going to break it to you now: I’m not talking about the horse. I’m talking about you.

Here’s the hard part. We might not even know what our fence looks like, how big (or small) it is, how far we’re away from it or maybe even what it’s holding us back from. But we are usually pretty damn certain there’s a fence because there is something between where we are and where we want to be.

Or here’s another thought you’re not going to like: maybe we know exactly what the fence looks like, how strong it is and we even know precisely how to get through it. But we don’t. Why?

Maybe we’re just conditioned to think that we’re not allowed to cross over to the side where we’d like to be. Who has conditioned us? Big Bad Someone? Or could it be someone closer and even friendly? It might not be all that complicated. We might just not want to get through. The other side means change and maybe we just don’t want to change.

But what if you would like to and you just feel like you can’t?

Here’s the part where I offer you my 30-day workshop that’s going to help you break through barriers and Become the Person You Know You Are! For only $447, you’ll invest in your future! Sign up now! Today only!

But I’m not going to do that. Because I don’t have a $447 course. I don’t even have a $4 course. Here’s the thing: I don’t even have the answer. Wait, it gets worse. Here’s the part where you’d actually prefer to pay me $447 to tell you because you’re going to like this option even less. Because I’m going to tell you how to get the answer and you’re going to wish you were just back to the pretty horse on the beach story and innocent white ribbons that you could waltz through with ease and continue galloping towards a life of luxury, sunsets, and drinks with umbrellas.

You know what your fence is. Maybe you can’t consciously see it or visualize it or say it or admit it or allow it to surface, but you know, roughly, where it is, how strong it is and why you can’t cross it.

Look again at the horse. Look at the fence.

Look at yourself. Look at your fence.

See the resemblance?

So. It’s up to you.

Wow. Are you still here?

Maybe because you’re thinking, “Uh, no, really, Mr. Every Single Day guy, I honestly don’t know what my fence is. I don’t know where it is, how big or strong (or weak or flimsy) it is because I can’t see it or feel it or even understand it. I just know I’m stuck and I can’t get out. I love the horse and the flittery white ribbon fence and that all sounds dreamy, but I’m more of a peacock in a strong metal cage. How can I get out of that?”

Then I would suggest going outside yourself and asking someone else what your fence is. Someone you trust, who won’t think you’re crazy, and someone you respect. Maybe have them read this and let them know you’re the one under the line at the end and that you need some help identifying your fence so that you can get through it.

P.S. I’m quietly tagging this under Big Change.