What passions do you share with your kids?
Seek them out, align them and keep in mind that 1 + 1 > 2.
Ifyou don’t know, you’ll want to understand overlapping circles. You create two circles, one for you and one for him (or her). Inside those circles, you both write out your passions or likes or hobbies. When you have some items that match up, those are what forms the overlapping circles. Easy peasy.
But now what? How can you build on what you share? Even easier: do them together, play it together, listen, watch or just be together when you do them. That’s it.
Who in their right mind would want to get up early to watch a basketball game? Let’s see, to find out, have you thought about asking? I asked my 10-year old if he wanted to wake up at 7:00 AM to watch UCLA v. Stanford basketball game. He said, “Wake me up.”
When the morning came, I was almost done with my morning meditation, but I had lost track of time and it was already a few minutes past 7 when I heard a knock on the door. “It’s past 7,” he whispered.
We made tea and pannekoeken and turned on the Christmas tree lights (I know, it’s Jan 18 … but they’re so cozy) and turned on the game.
A quick 3-pointer from Lonzo Ball within seconds of the opening tipoff and we no longer cared what day it was, what time of the morning it was, the fact that it’s -2 degrees outside or that it’s a school day.
No one else was awake and no one else needed to be awake. It’s dark and cold outside, but it’s warm and glowing inside. Basketball is on and UCLA is #4 in the country. The only thing that would make the morning better, as my son reminded me (as if I needed to be reminded) is if his grandpa were here to watch.
Another 3 from Lonzo! it’s going to be a good day.