You don’t have to ask. You have a choice.
I’m working on one of my next books called “Ask.”
Asking can be difficult. (I don’t usually write books about things that are EASY! ;-))
To ask means you’re coming out of yourself, you’re admitting defeat or lack of knowledge or at least that you’re missing something and looking to fill it. Fill in your own blank as to what you’re asking for.
It might be big stuff:
- “Please tell me what I’m doing with my life?”
- “Who am I?”
- “Why am I here?”
OK, so those were maybe too big. What if we tone it down a little.
- “Which path should I follow?”
- “What decision should I make?”
- “How am I going to get out of this __________ (job, marriage, rut, etc.)?”
Whew. Still pretty hefty. One more notch down.
- “Which project should I focus on?”
- “How am I going to make more money?”
- “When will I ever lose weight?”
I can’t seem to get to the small stuff. I’m going to really try.
- “Should I have dessert or not?”
- “Tell my friends about it or make up a story?”
- “Share my question with my best friend?”
There you have it: asking can be a big deal.
Just don’t do it.
Keep it in, don’t share, don’t get the opinion of others.
If it stays with you, maybe it will go away.
If you don’t share your questions with others, even close family or friends, maybe they’ll stop pestering you about it.
Keep it to yourself for a while. See how that goes. Then maybe ask if you think they can help and you’re at a point where you think you can handle the reality of it, or worse, their reality of your situation.
But for now, let’s go with Plan B: Don’t Ask.
This coming from a guy writing a book called Ask.
Just don’t do it.
Hold it in.
Keep it to yourself.
It’s easier that way.
Just get through today.
It’ll be OK.
Things could be better but if we hold it in, maybe…
P.S. I’m filing this under Delegating. 😉