Bradley | Aug 12, 2019 | 0
O is for Overwhelmed
Whew, this week it just hit me: I’m overwhelmed.
My wife is away for two weeks and my dad is in town so I have more responsibilities and am playing host on top of it. We’re having some work done in the house, so there are four guys in and out all day. We moved the kids out of their room while we redo their floors. So that means we have the entire contents of their room in the living room in piles. It’s also unnerving to just see in front of your eyes how much stuff we have. I have a huge 4-month naming project on top of my already busy day job. I’m delegating actually better than I ever have before, but still. I could go on and on, but it just hit me: I’m going to need to prioritize, weed out, and take control (of my inbox especially).
I don’t want to just list all that’s going on in my life. How do you handle overwhelm? If you’re dog paddling and barely staying afloat, how do prioritize and take your life back?
I’m kinda sick of it, though. My usual answer or solution is to work harder, work more, get up earlier, stay up later! But those are Band-Aid solutions. What’s at the core of the problem? In my opinion, I simple say Yes too often. I say yes even when I don’t have the capacity to get the job done. Not just work, but kids, friends, commitments, social, education, the whole thing. We just have too much going on. Does everybody?
It has stayed with me when listening to an interview at Traffic School of Leo Babauta of Zen Habits where Leo said, in passing, that he had one thing to do that day. It wasn’t the point of the interview or anything, it was just a comment. But it hit me hard. I know someone who has one thing to do in a day: my dog. My dog is interested in playing. That’s it. That’s his thing. His life is so simple. I envy the simplicity of it. I feel like I have one thing to do every minute.
I’m also writing this as evidence. I don’t often admit that I’m overwhelmed. Sure, I’m always busy, but I like to think (and admit) that I have it under control. I currently don’t. I don’t like the feeling. This is evidence that it needs to get better. I’ll look back to it in the near future for how much things have improved. There, done, moving on. Back to “work.”
P.S. You might say that I could Stop Writing Every Day. That would free up some time to work on the other items cluttering my life. But frankly, that’s the last thing I want to get rid of. In some ways, it’s what’s keeping me sane, it’s the only stable straight line I have going right now. Everything else is a free for all. Hmm, interesting, I just realize this. Writing every day has helped me in so many ways. Maybe there’s something to that. Hmm.