When are decisions triggered in the subconscious minds of children?
The good news and the bad news: they’re triggered all the time.
As an adult, I’m very conscious of the fact that memories are being recorded (and tiny decisions being made) all the time in my kids–and all kids … and all people for that matter.
The thing is: you don’t know which ones are going to stick.
This is an excerpt from a chapter of the upcoming book “Decide,” out October 17, 2018. You know when Star Wars released prequels after the other movies? This is like that. Decide comes before Every Single Day.
You can go to a lot of trouble to make it all a big deal to try to force the memory, that important moment, but the truth is, it’s going to be what it’s going to be.
As much as I think it’d be wonderful if my son went to the University of Groningen, I have little influence as to what will happen in his future. Well, I have some influence, but it’s a bit like herding jellyfish: you don’t want to touch them and they’re just so squishy.
Like herding jellyfish: you don’t want to touch them and they’re just so squishy.
But some things can stick more than others.
Here’s a video from the pre-week festivities where the older students welcome the first-year students and show off their student clubs (see the rowing club up above in the second float?) to entice them to join. Let’s just say that Groningen is a fun student town. Compare this with the photo of the actual university below.
He might remember the thump-your-heart-bass-beat of the bouncing student float. Whereas I might remember the Harry Potter-esque university building.
Then again, it might be reversed.
That’s the beauty of the triggering of the decision-making process. We can think we have some influence, but it might go completely in another direction.
The good news? That’s actually good news. If we could predict everything, what fun would that be?